Wednesday, October 12, 2011


Nothing is more easy - apart from situations in which it is difficult.
The first option is simply to want what you got already. The second option is to want what you are about to get. The third option is to want something you haven't got. The fourth option is always wanting what you haven't got. The fifth option is to want what you surely can't get.
The fourth option is a no, the fifth option is a no-no. The fourth option is for neurotic people, the fifth for obsessed people. Fortunately, those people don't read my blog.
Seriously now, before listing what you want and setting about to get it: Are you sure you realize what you have got already and what you are about to get? If the grass is greener at the other side of the hill, all your plans and actions will never lead to satisfaction, let alone happiness. It is a common scene in both tragedies and comedies that two people find out that they have been envious of one another.
So, make your Wanted list, but start with your Having list. Make your Wanted list as 'sexy' as possible, formulating your wants as attractive and as precise as possible. Than select. Find out which items would give you real satisfaction. Meaning they would give either real pleasure or would be really meaningful. Or both. This is your light list.
Now make a dark list: anything that spoils your pleasure or empties meaningfulness. You might have to work on this list before you can work on the light list. Sorry. But you can never get what you want, if sources of dissatisfaction will spoil whatever you reach, whatever you get.
Now you are ready for the real thing. And remember, whatever your goal, during the way toward your goal, your goal may change. Mary Parker Follett explained this already 80 years ago, talking about business goals:
What we possess always creates the possibilities of fresh satisfactions. The need comes as need only when the possible satisfaction of need is already there.  … The automobile does not satisfy wants only, it creates wants .  … The purpose in front will always mislead us. … When we carry out a policy, it begins to change. When we have to form specific regulations and provisions to see that that policy is carried out, often we find a  purpose developing that differs from that on which the policy was founded. Activity does more than embody purpose, it evolves purpose.
Activity does more than embody purpose, it evolves purpose. (For what purpose I am writing these blogs, anyway?)

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